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turquoisesea · Sep 16, 2009, 04:58 PM

Hey there, sounds like you have a LOT of questions and insecurities running through your mind.

That's normal.
and the only one who can TRULY answer them is you, we can only give guidance.

I too was late to discover my sexuality. Later than you actually

But now I'm with a great guy and having a great time sexually so, don't feel bad or out of place because you're new at this. Give it the time it needs to feel comfortable with everything, and to try things out at your own pace.

Porn isn't "a mistake" - if it is, TONS TONS TONS of people have made the same mistake as you, so PLEASE don't feel bad for it.

As far as the transgender thing, I think it's ok to be attracted to certain parts of the female body - we are BEAUTIFUL. Women are beautiful and you can appreciate that no matter what sexuality you are. I would just leave the question open and feel it out as time goes by.

As far as the abuse thing... It's ok to have these desires. Lots of people play rough with eachother sexually, lots of others don't. Some people LIKE being dominated, chased, whatever else. The only advice I would give you is be careful. If there's ever a partner in the picture make sure you both have a word that you can say , a safety word that can instantly bring the situation back into control. Make sure you really know your partner and trust. It is not wrong to feel that way. It WOULD be horrible to actually be abused. To play it out with someone you love and trust on the other hand, may actually do things for you.

wishing you the best