(((((Peaches))))) I am sorry for joining your thread late. I read all the posts and I agree with all of the wise words here.

What Rainbow said really hit home with me, too. My t doesnt allow email (no surprise there) but if she did Id be disapppointed and reading into every word. And watching to see if her reply was timely enough. And then read something into that. But it can be an oppritunity for healing and understanding. As Rainbow said, this is the present, it is not my past, I have a present filled with evidence that t cares a great deal about me and therefore would not deliberately hurt me. The pain is pain from my past. If you do discuss this with your t, it may be another small step towards healing. What it triggers for you. I know everything you said would be a major trigger for me.

I also liked what Brightheart said about our responses are like old tapes playing over and over again. The situations change but our hurt and disappointment plays over and over again. I posted that my new interview t never showed up to the appt and left a msg late. I was real hurt and disappointed, playing that tape over and over, but I could have seenit for what it really was- she cancelled, something big or small came up, I may never know, and it had NOTHING to do with me. Be disappointed but try to keep my emotions within some kind of normal limits and not to overshoot the mark (in terms of my feelings).