I think that past feelings are being triggered up for you. Your T is triggering it up but your feelings are mostly from a past time I'll bet. Your T sounds like she has no idea why people SI and that is why she cannot be helpful. Also, it sounds like she cannot really show that she cares because she is unable to get close to her clients. These are her issues. Her inability has nothing to do with you. I think that you are learning and what can you do but try? (Concerning trying to find a new T).