thanks rhap. theyre really good friends and make a lot of jokes about how she has known him longer. she is engaged and we hang out without him so i don't think she has any intentions and i don't think he has any for her either. just made me feel bad. i don't like feeling like i have to compete (which i know is just my own insecurities). i talked to him about it later and he reassured me and gave me kisses now i just have to bake something really good haha