(((((((Calista+12)))))))
Sounds to me like t is frustrated, not knowing what to do. From a legal standpoint, if he thought, read into, what you were saying could mean your safety is in danger, then he "legally" has to take steps. Why he spoke so harshly, I don't know. If he thought you could be in danger he probably told your husband so he could keep an eye on you, otherwise he thinks you need to be somewhere safe (thus the police).
My t gets nervous when I talk about those hopeless, desparate feelings because she may not be sure if I might act on them. I try to let her know that I'm not "threatening" anything, but I know it scares her.
Please know that I am thinking of you, today on your birthday, and always.
Take care....