Please clarify something for me. At the abandonment issues group it says "for people who have a hard time with admanament issues." I used to have a hard time with abandonment issues and (on rare occasions) still do; I've known a few other people who've had a hard time with abandonment issues or still do; but I can't say that I currently or typically have a hard time with abandonment issues. I wouldn't mind discussing abandonment issues but I don't expect to be looking for support for myself. Meanwhile, in this thread you say, "all are welcome". Should I join or not?