I agree. Regardless if it is ADD/ADHD or something else, it would not hurt to take him to a child psychologist. It is HARD to see your child struggle! Especially as moms (no offence to dads, we just tend to be more emotional), it hurts to see our children hurt! It's just as hard when we see them make the wrong choice. When I talk to my daughers about it, they don't like it but understand it. It even got to a point that my oldest daughter once told me she "hated" it when I told her she had to make decisions.

We want to be able to protect them from harm and hurt. We wish they would listen so they wouldn't have to learn the hard way, especially if we had to learn the hard way!

The truth for any parent is sometime we have to let them learn the hard way, let them experience the hurt and dissapointment. When they go through it, all we can do is be a calm presence and explain to them that when they do X, Y results. They may not like to hear it, but it is the way of the world.

We moms tend to fall into the trap of we should know all and control all. Our children are people unto themselves and have their own personalities. We see the potential and it is frustrating to see them not achieve it.

Unlike some parents, you care enough to want to help him. You love him enough to say "I don't know, where do I go for answers?" There is no easy fix (oh but do I wish there was!) Give lots of hugs, look into help. Make the school a partner rather than an entity to fight against. If they know you are willing to work with them, they can provide suggestions and help. Remember, you have support here!