hey

i have trust issues.
i have background that gives me good reasons and i am fortunate to have a bf that is understanding about this

what works for me is if i DO have an issue re trust - i spill my guts to my bf

i just spill it out and say hey. this bothers me. am i out of bounds or what?

transparency
my bf has no trust issues with me
but all the same i DO keep a total transparency with him
i tell him everything including if i get hit on, flirted with etc.
but i also tell him everyday i want ONLY him

he is more confident as a person, than i am

so i make sure to tell him if i feel threatened, and i am also cautious in that i say hey this is ME and my insecurity
it's not you
i trust you
i just don't trust others

fo far, it's working

i wish you the best
thanks for letting me chime in