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Sep 18, 2009, 09:29 AM
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Member Since: Jun 2007
Location: Chicago, Illinois
Posts: 5,518
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I don't always buy that argument. My first husband became emotionally distant because he couldn't give me what I needed from him. The more distant he got, the more needy I became - until it frustrated the hell out of me.
I had several failed relationships after that too. 
A close friend got a job in CA, and the salary was HUGE. He asked me to marry him and move to California with him. I loved the man dearly, but I could feel no physical spark between us. He told me he would give me the world on a silver platter, and I would learn to love him. I pictured myself sitting in the middle of paradise - absolutely miserable in a world with no passion. 
EVERYONE thought I was crazy when I told him no. I'd rather live on my own than live a life without passion. I was often accused of seeking out "difficult" men.
It wasn't long after that I met my current husband. We've been together for 20 years, and I STILL have a "schoolgirl crush" on him. He has always been there for me. We may be poor and struggling, but I never regretted my decision to hold out for passion. 
Good luck - hope you'll be able to light a spark in her. 
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