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(JD) · Sep 18, 2009, 11:03 AM

Of course they will some element of depression with cancer. The scare of it alone can send someone tumbling downward in emotion. And you have surely had some very negative things occur in your life; I'm sorry to hear.

I found out about "friends" and "family" when I had my disabling injury. While I wished (and wish) they were in my life, I couldn't base my reason for living (or not) on an outside source like them.

You're deserving of the best life you can get...whether with cancer and without your "best" friend or not.

You are depressed, surely. Depression tells us lies. Don't listen. When you hear yourself say or think something negative, EVEN IF IT'S TRUE, counter it. Rephrase it to something else, not so negative, so it's dark effect doesn't make it in to feed the depression. Stop saying negative things out loud. It's tough enough to experience them and think them...but when we say them out loud, we truly give them power over us.

You are having such a tough time. I feel for you.

Yes! Yes! You need some goal, something that will give you a fighting spirit. You can use some help meditating, and visually creating "pacmen" to eat those cancer cells! I'm sure the American Cancer Society has resources online from which you can gain help.

Fight! Keep posting! Tell us what you want to do that you haven't tried yet. Tell us about your day, and how you think you can make it better. Small steps. PC members are with you.