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Sep 18, 2009, 12:24 PM
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Member Since: Jul 2009
Location: Phoenix, AZ, USA
Posts: 2,779
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In relationships, there are many things that words cannot create. Trust is one of them. When someone says to you "trust me," what's the first thing you think of? Right! You think, should I? In a relationship, or in life in general, trust is earned. In relationships, love develops over time, you can't make it happen. Comfort develops slowly, you can't make it happen. Trust develops slowly, you can't make it happen. All you can do to get someone to trust you is to act trustworthy. Be consistent in your actions. Do what you say. Act in ways consistent with how you say you feel. What Jerrymichele says is true. Never talk about a previous relationship especially in terms of possibly not being over that person yet. That's really dropping a bomb!  Nah, I know it's hard when you are sharing feelings.
I have a suggestion. I sort of sense that she is still hurt and some of her actions are meant to hurt you back. Perhaps if you approach it like, "I don't blame you for feeling hurt after what we went through. I don't want to let you go and would give anything if we could go back to how we were before all of this stuff started. But, if not, then lets stay close and talk and see what happens." Try to be patient. Let her work through her feelings. Can you two meet somewhere between the two hour distance and have dinner or something? You can keep in touch by phone or text? All I can suggest is be there for her consistently and tell her how much you want to prove yourself and try to be patient. She has to decide when she trusts you again.
I hope this helps just a little. 
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 Vickie
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