sorry that has happened. go with your gut on this. Sometimes its so clear that we cant believe its real but it is.[quuyote=lostnbigcity;1137542]I have been dating a man on and off for 9 yrs. I didn't know what kind of family I was getting into until I moved clear across the country to be with him. I love this man with everything I have BUT, I am feeling so sick to my stomach over some of the things I see going on..Him and his family are VERY close ( alittle too close at times) I have panick attacks and everytime I see things going on it makes me feel so sick I can't seem to get over it...I have talked about the things that bother me but he says I'm crazy and nothing is going on...here is my problem..
I have seen him and his sister do things ( kinda flirty to me ) I have seen him rubbing her feet, I have seen him watching her in ways that are alittle too close, she stands in front of him ALOT ( too close ) she stands next to him at kitchen table and reaches across him to reach for food instead of just sitting down . The otherday they were together alone for 6 hrs while I was at home and it made me so sick to think about it. he says Im jealous of her...I actually like her alot but I think Im more jealous of the closeness he gives her ...the only time I get that is when we are alone . once we are out and about with his family around I get no contact from him. I know this is a bad way to feel but my gut tells me to not trust and that angers him..he tells me that is his sister and that is sick ! gets really really mad so that is why I'm here because I hold everything in now ...I don't want to anger him ...but If they do things in front of me what do you think is going on behind my back...neither have been married or have kids and they are up in age ..they both lived at home until they were in thier late 30's . I guess I'm here to just vent because I'm not sure how to feel anymore. I don't want to lose him over this but at the same time I don't want to waste time with someone who is not totally commited to me...9yrs and no commitement , no talk of marriage..He bought me a ring for christmas but never told me what kind of ring and he doesn't wear one ...can someone please tell me what is my problem? thanks for listening .....lostnbigcity[/quote]