Don't let him isolate you! You need objective people in your life! In my opinion (and I have been there) that just gives him all the power in the relationship. You can't control how he behaves, but you can do things for yourself and your children. Quit worrying about if you get a job he will be displeased...does he do anything to try to please you? Again, just my opinion, but..I have found the if you refuse to be a doormat then you don't get treated like one. I wish you all the best!!!