I totally understand that!!! My H...after saying he was going to leave (just like after most arguments) threw his ring in our pond!!! He was mad because I wouldn't marry him until he quit treating me like dog doo. I finally had enough and told him he knew where the door was...locked the bedroom door and told him I expected him to be gone when I got home from work (that was one of the hardest things I have ever had to do and I swear it would have broken my heart if he would have left).... He was still here when I got home and I told him that if he ever said he was leaving again...well....he was. We had one of our best conversations after that. That was 8 years ago (and many, many arguments ago) but he has not done that again...why??? because I meant it. We have been married for 3 years now. He respects me.