Thank you all. You help me realize I'm doing the right thing by working on this marriage. After that last thing at the FT, for the first time in years I thought "maybe I need to get a divorce". My sister just went through one and I have seen how it has affected her boys. We all (including our daughters) have so much to deal with right now. I know now that I have the strength to do this. Thank you again! I wish I had found this place long ago, but you can wish in one hand and you know what in the other and see what fills up first! LOL