Callista, my heart aches for you, my dear. I think I have been in a kind of similar bind, but sorry, it won't help except for you to hear perhaps that T's are all too human at times and make decisions in a moment that even they can't predict the far-reaching effects. That's not meant to be a defense, just an observation, but mostly, i just want you to know that you are care about, deeply, and that I for one wish you safe passage through this very difficult and confusing labyrinth of chaos. Miri