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Sep 19, 2009, 08:30 PM
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Member Since: Sep 2009
Location: Philly, PA
Posts: 863
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your post reminded me of imago couples therapy! look at the intro....its like exactly what you said!
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I mago relationship therapy is a method of couples therapy that
integrates the major theories of personality, behavioral science,
physiology, and spiritual discipline.
“Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples,” by
Harville Hendrix is the watershed book that unifies the subject
of marriage for clinicians and couples alike.
The word imago is Latin for image, and has been used as a term
since the time of Plato to describe the inner imprint that matches
the type of person we seemed destined to fall in love with.
The more unconscious this image the more power it exerts.
Not just any good looking or talented person will do. We want
chemistry, fireworks, magic— some kind of catalytic reaction
that will make us feel alive. What we fail to fully appreciate is
that what causes this feeling is combustion, that is to say, conflict.
The characteristics of our image are formed in childhood from
powerful experiences we had with our parents and other family
members. Without knowing it, we are looking for the characters
involved in the original conflict.
Throughout the ages, poets considered this a form of madness,
while psychology called it neurosis. Harville Hendrix demonstrated
that this seemingly destructive pull is in fact one of
nature’s most eloquent strategies of self-repair.
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