Hello Ghostgirl, it's nice to meet you, welcome to psych central.
Have you talked to your husband about going to couples therapy?
I think and this is just my opinion, you should look at the good vs the bad in this situation and if it seems like the bad has out weighed the good for a long period of time then maybe you should consider making a decision on if you really want to stay in this relationship.

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