Hi,

As with many posts on here it is very hard to try and give advice as we only have a little of the background. From what you have described so far it sounds like he is going through puberty at a little later stage. So the things he is doing are very normal for a child going through this the problem is at age 12-13 this behavior would go unnoticed and would be put down to childen "experimenting" and the touching thing would be confined to rough and tumble in the playground.

As he is already seeing a psych I think you need to seek advice from him/her and if you belive what they are saying is practical then go with it.

If you are concerned that their suggestions will not address the issues maybe one way of testing the advice is to ask them for a long term plan and see how that feels to you. If you are still concerned after that ask if some one else could speak with you to try and get another angle on it.

As for the pornography I assume he is not engaging in a specific genere over a long period of time e.g. a fetish site then again this is very very normal and I personally wouldnt worry about it if anything I would put a PC in his room and take the parental lock off as he is going to be looking at this kind of thing some where and it may as well be in a place where it does not offend others. (yes I will get people disagree with me over that part but I am thick skinned and stand by what I have said)

I think lastly try and encourage physical activities you seem to have already started with the running, maybe look at some other things like football climbing outdoor sports and the like.

I have a good idea of what you are going through it must be a great worry to you, however try to no over react and go with the flow and worry only about what is going on just now rather that imagining what it could all lead too.

My thoughts are with you.