Well, life sucks. Im sorry Im not pampering you.

HI akita, yes life sucks a lot some times - other times ites bearable and even enjoyable sometimes we all need a little pampering - alittle caring - a little knidness - somtimes it doesnt work but hey we do what we can when we can.

I had a friend who was sexually abused as a kid and I felt sorry fo her and I tried to take care of her but she wouldnt change for the better and was completely incapable of taking responsibility and it turned out like an evil cycle and every relationship she had was drama followed by another drama.

somtimes people get stuck in the cycle of abuse and cant see their way out of it - somtimes they feel they are dirty and unworthy and deserve to be treated that way Whether they know that consciously or not.... it can take a lot of therapy and hard work to get past years of being told you are dirt and being made to feel that way - I am glad you were supportive for your firend and i hope she finds a way to healing one day.

But you will have to overcome guilt issues and look at stuff that will be very hurtfull and scary to come back to.

this is very true - guilt - shame - despair - worthlessness all the things from the voices fromthe past that have to be dealt with.

I admire the fact that you are willing to get therapy... that is immensely brave of you and you can do it.