This is the first time I have ever posted anything like this. I'll try to keep is short and too the point.

About 4 months ago, I started having insecurity issues with my marriage. We will be celebrating our 12th year married next month and have been together 14 years. We have a 12 year old (how we celebrated the engagement). Things came to a head and we had a long talk and several since then. However 3 months ago when my husband got laid off those feeling of insecuriity, inadequacy mutliplied. To the point where when I was driving home from work I'd get a knot in my stomach fearing that when I got home my husband was going to tell me he doesn't need me any more, doesn't love me, doesn't find me attractive and found someone else online. The phrase "Idle hands are the devil's playground" or something like that keeps playing in my head. Also in the last 4 months my sex drive has gone crazy (maybe the insecurity thing telling me need to put out more). But the problem with that is his sex drive seems to be the complete opposite and when he is tired, etc I get upset, sometimes to the point i pick a fight (feeling rejected, ugly, etc). Also, with him being out of work, I expected him to do more around the house, however he only does maybe 1 load of laundry every other week. All other housework I still do, including deciding what is for dinner when I get home from work and cooking every night. It is frustrating.

About 1 month ago I started researching online and am now taking a supplement called Stress Tabs and it is helping. I don't get the knots any more, but I still am constantly worried. Maybe its all the stress with him being out of work and not being able to find anything, the fact this is his 4th lay off in the 9 years I have been at my job, that his sex drive is so low. Sometimes I feel more like roommates than married. Fortunately we have been really good about not letting our daughter see our struggles.

I guess I am looking for suggestions on the following:
1) Any other supplements that could help ease anxiety/ worry. My insurance plan sucks and we have a high deductible, so looking for a low cost option.
2) How can I get my husband to open up? Is his low sex drive due to stress and his feelings of not being able to provide for the family?
3) Would going to counseling be a benefit? How could I get my husband to participate?
4) any general words of advice?