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Old Sep 21, 2009, 11:59 AM
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Originally Posted by Dr.Muffin View Post
ive always wondered if people had a preference for what gender their therapist is and why they prefer one over the other. also, have you ever been told you should see a specific gendered therapist for specific reasons or to work through specific things?

ive only ever had female therapists and im not sure i could open up to a man. i know that i definitely have issues with men (absentee father and all) and intellectually, i could see how having a male therapist might be exactly what i need. but still, i hesitate.

on the other hand, i have a female friend who will only see a male therapist and cant ever see herself preferring a female.

thoughts?
Interesting questions. Speaking for myself...I am female and could not see a female therapist, pdoc, even family doctor. All of my doctors for everything are men. I don't trust women because my mother never gave me any nurturing. Men on the other hand, they can fill the father void that I have always wanted and never got. I tried 3 female therapist and didn't like any of them, I felt they were judging me. My T and pdoc are both men and love them. They are great and are so kind, and I don't get the judgemental feelings from them. I can open up with so much ease when I am with them. This is very interesting since all the people that sexually abused me were men. Go figure. I guess my dislike for women is so much more great?