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Originally Posted by tryingtobeme
Interesting questions. Speaking for myself...I am female and could not see a female therapist, pdoc, even family doctor. All of my doctors for everything are men. I don't trust women because my mother never gave me any nurturing. Men on the other hand, they can fill the father void that I have always wanted and never got. I tried 3 female therapist and didn't like any of them, I felt they were judging me. My T and pdoc are both men and love them. They are great and are so kind, and I don't get the judgemental feelings from them. I can open up with so much ease when I am with them. This is very interesting since all the people that sexually abused me were men. Go figure. I guess my dislike for women is so much more great?
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it could be. my mother and i have been inseperable since i was born! our relationship is definitely not perfect, but i never felt in need of love or nurturing from her. my father on the other hand...i have few happy memories of him, and the bad ones stick out more. he and most of his side of the family were, well, an unsavory bunch. they never liked my mother and were mean to me for as long as i can remember. i have a strong dislike for my father probably in a similar way to how you feel about your mother. and maybe thats why we feel more comfortable therapists who are of the opposite sex of that disliked parent.
i find it interesting though. up until i went to grad school my primary friend pool has been guys. from grade school on up through college my closest friends have been male. the nature of the field im in and the program i am in is such that women vastly outnumber men, and i was forced to consider that not all women suck! lol...ive always been a "man's woman" (to quote seinfeld) and its taken a long time for me to form close-ish relationships with females...but its good so far!