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I liked her a lot. Smart, knowledgable and NOT put off by the bpd thing. Focused mostly on trauma. I felt a connection. And I felt she understood me.
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She sounds great. Bluemoon!
You were able to tell her a lot of important things on only the first visit. I think it is very strong that she has the trauma background. Did she say how she treats trauma?
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She did say she isnt a psychodynamic therapist and isnt trained that way. I dont know it this is a good or bad thing.
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I don't think it's necessarily a bad thing. A T can have everything you need without being trained in a specific approach. A T need not be psychodynamic or CBT but yet can be very creative, have a lot of success in treating trauma, be willing to work on the past, etc.
It sounds like she reacted well to the BPD diagnosis. I think if she didn't like to work with BPD clients, you would have sensed it or she would have steered you away from herself.
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I feel like my t doesnt like me b/c of the bpd and then I cried a little. She was very gentle and explained more about trauma and the way I developed as a child in response to that.
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This sounds very strong to me.
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I called and cancelled my t's appointments through that 1st wk in october.
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Good for you.
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it doesnt sound like she does strictly cbt. She did use the word eclectic.
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That also sounds very strong. So if CBT (or any particular technique) doesn't work for a client, she can move on to another technique in her tool box. With your current T, it sounded like she had no other skills to draw on when her approach with you wasn't working, so this T sounds more broadly trained and more flexible.
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I am not sure now whether I should use my insurance appts to see the other t's. My next appt is with my friend's t tomorrow at 10. And this is the only t that is a little far (out of my immediate area). Im considering cancelling. What do you think?
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And who is the third one? If it were me, I would probably see all three and then decide. It might be worth the insurance visits. You are looking for someone for the long term, for a T really well suited to you, so I think it is worth paying out of pocket a few times to find the best match. What I mean is--I wouldn't let the insurance thing prevent you from seeing the other 2 therapists. If you decide you don't want to see them because flat-tire-T is such a great match, then fine. But don't use the insurance as an excuse to not see the other 2 therapists.
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said my t is probably a "behaviorist" who doesnt work with trauma.
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It would be interesting if you see your current T for a last session to ask her why she treated you the way she did. I think it was dreamseeker who quoted something (in one of your threads) from a book that suggested your T's behavior (e.g. not answering a question you asked her but instead just sitting there and smiling) was psychodynamic and designed to frustrate you. I guess as an outsider looking in, I would be interested to know why your T was so consistently rude to you. Was it just because she is a rude person, personally dislikes you, or is it some kind of therapeutic approach? Of course, you may not ever want to see her again, and I completely understand!