Sunny said (about prospective T not being psychodynamic) >> I don't think it's necessarily a bad thing. A T can have everything you need without being trained in a specific approach. A T need not be psychodynamic or CBT but yet can be very creative, have a lot of success in treating trauma, be willing to work on the past, etc.
I very much agree. I like the idea of "eclectic" in that a T is maybe not so bound to a particular rationale, but is open enough to consider or use other ideas as well. People (clients) are each a little world in themselves, and the science of psychotherapy is so vast and complex, that a flexible approach sounds like a reasonable thing IMO.

but about this >> It would be interesting if you see your current T for a last session to ask her why she treated you the way she did.
Just speaking my own thoughts, but from what you've shared, I would think she'd be far too defensive to give you any kind of satisfactory closure (and if that turned out to be the case, it would fry me to have to pay her for it too). She sounds like Mrs My-Way-Or-The-Highway! But of course, it's up to you.
BTW, I am glad to hear you decided to hit the highway instead of trying to get healing out of her - the open road sure can hold a lot of great new possibilities