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Old Sep 22, 2009, 11:19 AM
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I think Vickie gave you some very good suggestions. I would assume your husbands sex drive is affected by the fact he isn't working - especially given the state of the economy. He's probably feeling depressed. But try not to let his depression affect your feelings about yourself. If you can afford it counseling would certainly be worth trying.

Simple things like going out for a walk together, and finding inexpensive ways to have fun would help both your stress levels. And having some honest, nonjudgemental heart to heart talks. If you are honest about how you are feeling - in a loving way - he may respond in kind. That would make you feel closer together and then maybe the lack of sex would not bother you so much.

My husband just spent several months out of work and it was very difficult simply because we were both so very anxious. Now that he's found a job, things are much better.
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