I've always been of the opinion that life gives back what you put into it. As a child, I became rebellious because the adults in my life were not giving me what was their responsibility to give me. I learned coping mechanisms but they were those of a child. As I grew up, I realized that they weren't working for me, so I changed them. They still weren't the best, so when I finally went to therapy, I was taught good coping mechanisms. Still, some work and some don't but that's the way it's supposed to be. Example: you can ask for what you need but that doesn't mean others are willing to give that to you. Then I learned that I can only depend on ME and on my Higher Power. If I ask for something I need and don't get it, then I do what I can to get it myself. That way, there is no one else left to blame. I keep trying to get what I need until I come close enough that I am satisfied.

Somehow, I acquired the gift of laughter and it helps me quite a bit. If nothing else, I try to keep a smile on my face even if I have to think of something funny... and wonder of wonders, I'm greeted with smiles from strangers. You'd be amazed how far those smiles go!

Like others have told you, you need a T to talk to. You can tell them anything and it is the T that needs to keep your confidentiality. If you aren't being treated right, the other person has already violated the unspoken promises between friends.