I had an eating disorder assessment today. I mentioned to her that I have concerns I could have BPD, and she said to me that after talking to me for an hour she didn't think I did (they will look further into this on the next visit or next few visits). She said that, typically, a person with BPD will be in denial so if you suggest to them that they're borderline they'll tell you they're not.

I just want to know how you can "tell" a person is borderline by chatting to them? Would any of you say or think that it's obvious that you have borderline disorder? What is the typical personality like?

I was "normal" in the assessment. I answered her questions. I cried a few times. I don't see how she would either agree or disagree I have BPD. But maybe it's obvious when you talk to people with it???? What do you think?

I'm very concerned and possibly obsessed that I MUST get the right diagnosis, whether that's borderline or not. I won't let them just pass over it without proper examiniation. I've read several websites and one book on borderline and I just feel it explains me so much. I'm terrified I'm wrong because then I feel that it's just ME, that it's not a disorder, that I choose and want to be this way.

I've been diagnosed with anorexia. But I really don't feel it's "enough" to explain all of my issues.

Any advice or info is really appreciated, I'm only new to finding out about borderline and it's still entirely possible I don't have it... but I think it's important to really know myself what borderline is before I let someone tell me I don't have it.

Thanks,
Lisa x