You're so right, Mac.
Validation is a big key to success. I found an excellent article on "Invalidation" a while ago which talks about how that kind of behavior damages a relationship (or a potential one).
I do recognize that men and women think differently in many ways regarding attraction to the opposite sex, but there is no joy, in my opinion, in a relationship whose primary emphasis is the physical! There must be mutual respect, genuine concern for each other, supportive of one another's interests and endeavors.
The physical aspects for me are a result of those other qualities.
Seeker