I won't get into all I believe right now, but I grew up with conflicting messages (not just the familial teachings vs. the societal teachings, but conflicts from what my parents taught me but at the same time allowed). My parents weren't especially religious; we didn't go to church (except for a few times over my childhood), but they did consider themselves Christian (I think) and taught me to believe in that, more or less. I was given the message that sex should be after you got married, but I later decided that wasn't necessary, in my beliefs. Yet, they didn't do anything to stop me from seeing some softcore porn movies (like those that would air late-night on the defunct Prism network, and you sometimes see on the premium channels these days, like Showtime and HBO). My mom had my sister-in-law buy me Playgirl when a favorite celebrity was in it, and then I found they'd sell it to me (at 15), myself, so I bought it myself. I got the message that sex was dirty and filthy from my parents, and they'd make me feel ashamed, but at the same time, I read a lot of books about sex (not just "adult" material, but sex-positive health books, like those by Dr. Ruth--who was just on The Doctors yesterday! Love her!), and came to understand how sex can be healthy and isn't a bad thing, although those conflicts still reside in me. I recognize one is false (the "sex is dirty and shameful" message) and one is normal and healthy.