Hi,
EMDR can be really emotional and tough. I have been doing it along with another kind of therapy with my therapist and in the beginining I would wake up in nightmares. It opened up a lot of my past and it wasn't until I left the session that it would hit me.
The safe place takes time so please be gentle with yourself. When I am in crisis I have hard time going to the safe place but I keep trying. Lately I have been using her office as my safe place b/c I can see it clearly when I leave.
You are experiencing a lot of new emotions - so let me say it again, please be gentle with yourself.

I hope you post about how it went with therapist. I'm happy that she is so responsive. And...you are not "needy" you are going through some tough times. I think we all think of ourselves that way b/c we're too afraid of actually needing and deserving help.