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Originally Posted by treehouse
maybe i need to use the time while T is gone to think about the whole integration vs. non-integration thing.... maybe I CAN just kind of co-exist with them.... i guess if there was some way i could let all of the parts just kind of be "there" but not lose time, that would be okay...
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I think that sounds like a great goal. "Integration vs. Non-integration" sounds so absolute or black and white, like there are no in between solutions. Treehouse, does your T think there are only those two options? Maybe he has some interesting intermediate solutions, and maybe you have some ideas too, and you could put your heads together and come up with a less absolutist goal.

Would there be a way to work toward co-consciousness with your alters so that they still exist but you are aware of what they are thinking, you can communicate with one another, so that you don't lose time? (Technically, I don't know how you would move toward that situation. Perhaps by inviting the alters to exist with you in that manner?) And maybe your T could help you all get along and work together towards common goals. I know alters are not the same as ego states, so this may not apply, but one thing my T had me do with my protector ego state (an adult male), was work with him to come up with alternative ideas for what he could do to help me. Some of his protective efforts, in current day, were kind of messing things up for me. But he was terrified that if I no longer needed that protection, that he would cease to exist. So T helped me work with him to redefine his role, so that he would still feel I needed him, and he could be useful. I know it sounds wacky....

