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Old Sep 23, 2009, 02:18 PM
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One time my current T wanted me to do a certain action outside of therapy, and this action was not consistent with who I was or where I was in my thinking at that time. So I told him no, I wasn't going to do that.
Saying "no" to my mother was an invitation to an execution. Or so I seem to have believed.

When I was in my first therapy (not the present one) I once got up the ability to say "no" to someone in a very controlled and calm way, and got condemned by my therapist at the time for doing so. He assumed I had been the "offender".

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So pachy, my suggestion in this case is to show your T that following his suggestion is actually not aligned with other things you have learned in therapy (and that perhaps he has been promoting). Then you catch him in a bind and maybe he will sit still and listen.
Maybe. But only if I am able to stay present and think and explain clearly. Something that is often not the case. And if I am not, how will he react?
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