Hi nightdream,

What comes over in your post is all the love, selflessness and understanding that you have. As you rightly say, the narcissistic person is unable to feel love for others, and their internal life must be very bleak to say the least.

When we are struggling with the pain inflicted upon us, we tend to get defensive, which makes things worse for us. I think that you have overcome that. The change seems to come when we realise that there are other people in the world that we can share our love with.

I think of it as stepping out of the shadows.

Good thoughts, M