you seem to have a good idea of what you need i think...what would a therapist have to do to help you to feel safe? has yours done any of that? and if not, have you asked for it? i mean, im definitely not one for forcing a relationship with clients, if they just want to talk news sports and weather for the first few sessions then that's what we'll do. im patient. but i would wonder what i needed to do to help them feel safe with me....

the best way to get what you need in therapy is to ask for it. but i suppose asking is a form of being vulnerable as well, and if theres no feeling of safety then....hmmm. catch 22.