Dear Darkeyes,

First of all I think everyone has fantasies about being with someone else. The fact that you told your husband is a big step, make sure you let him know it's not because you don't love him. I don't think that the fantasies are an indication of trouble. I do think longing to become emotionally attached to someone other than your husband does indicate problems!

As for the counselling I got her to go to one session. She felt like it was a waste of time and money. Because she was and is sure that nothings wrong with her actions.

Mark