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Originally Posted by pachyderm
My T frequently tells me it is safe. I feel I don't get to discover if it is or not on my own -- I feel pressured to agree with him that it is safe, even when I do not know if it is or not. I do not trust words; I want to see actions. I want to see somebody doing something that tells me that it is safe, not only with words.
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I SO agree with this! My T told me many times in therapy that I was safe, but as far as I was concerned, I had no reason to believe him. I had to experience it for myself. Now that I've been with him for 2 years, I HAVE experienced it, and I truly KNOW, in a deep way, that I am safe with him.
Have you been with your T long, pachy? do you think it's a time thing...you need more time before you believe you are safe?