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Originally Posted by pachyderm
This does not take into account my history; as I said before, in my family asking for something that my mother did not want me to ask for seemed to me to be an invitation to an execution. And not just any execution. I find it hard to overcome this.  |
no, it doesnt take anything into consideration...i guess its just one of those things that are quite simple but NEVER easy.
youre (hopefully) not under your mother's thumb anymore and youre (hopefully) not dealing with such dangerously unstable people anymore, so reacting to this environment in the same way youve reacted in past environments is (likely) not helpful to you. i can defintely understand a child figuring out strategies to try and stay safe in a toxic environment and if not asking for things was (one of) the way(s) to do that i most certainly understand your reluctance to do it now. but its hard to experience a different reaction from someone who is (hopefully) stable and trustworthy if you dont at least dip your toe in the waters trust and vulnerability.
how is someone to show you that they may be at least a little different if never given a chance to prove themselves?