i disagree on that point. children are smart and resilient and able to come up with solutions much better than they are given credit for. the solutions are immature and lacking in forethought. and the strategies are simple yet effective. children are limited in what they are able to control and they are also limited in the life experience that might provide someone with the capacity to "brainstorm," as well as the resources to do so. but that doesnt mean their adaptation isnt a strategy...its not deliberate, i will grant you, but it is a strategy. a desperate strategy conceived to try to ensure their survival, but a strategy nevertheless.

i didnt really understand the "control them" question?