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eskielover · Sep 24, 2009, 02:06 PM

It is hard to imagine looking back at the time I was a child that there was anything that bad in a child's life that could make them want to end their life.

Looking at the world around us today, I can't say that anymore....also looking at all the hidden things in peoples childhoods, I also can no longer say that either.

Just think of how many children are placed in situations where they are forced "not to tell or......." Where is a child even supposed to turn in situations like that. Obviously NOT the parents as they may be the ones telling them that. I can't imagine how children who have been threatened to "not tell" & feel they have no possible place to turn even when they do can possibly survive a world like that. We don't think that things like that can happen in a small town....there are so many things that happen in this world that we "can't imagine happening". Unfortunately, when children end their lives, it ends up being a glimpse that something bad was going on in the world around them but the chances are that no one will come out with the truth & it will usually stay hidden forever.

Even with programs set up in a school to prevent things like this from happening, it may only help a few (which is a good thing) but it will not catch all. There are all too many who end up at the point & nothing will make a difference no matter who is there to talk with them. The ones who give an indication are the ones who can be helped as they are usually the ones that would rather not end their lives.....but the silent ones.....the ones who decide & nothing could possibly change their mind anyway, we can't expect to catch everyone with a problem.

It is so sad that anyone gets to that place in their life especially when it's a child with the rest of their life ahead of them that we know can turn out good but they can't see it, or in some cases refuse to see it no matter what anyone says.

Sadly, I felt that way as an adult for several years.....I was just blessed that my attempts were not successful. I said nothing to anyone & nothing anyone said would have or did made a difference in how I felt.....& there were several times when no one could understand how I even survived. Strange how life works we are not always in control of even ourselves & it turned out years later that I was the only one who was there to protect my Mother when she was alone & dying of cancer. The things we can't see in the future when we think we have no further purpose.

It is important to put help out there for those that it will help, but it's an unreasonable expectation to believe that is will help every case...we do what we can to help as many as we can & that is the best goal we can have.

I hope that your son & his brother-in-law & all the children at the school will be able to sort through & come to some peace with what happened. I know that just trying to do something positive to try & make a difference in the future is meaningful & important in healing. If you can take some time to have a serious talk with your son about suicide also, I am sure that will be a help also. Your support & a place for him to discuss with someone familiar with mental health issues is also important as you are probably more sensitive than others to give him comfort.

My heart goes out to all who have been touched by this sadness