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Old Sep 24, 2009, 02:09 PM
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Pachy, I was so happy to see that you started a thread. Do you think that this is a step in asking for what you need????

I totally agree with you that your T needs to start EXACTLY where YOU are. If your T doesn't do this, steps will be missed as they try to help you evolve and heal. A good T needs to understand where you are at, at that very moment! It doesn't sound like your T understands where you are at?

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Unlike what some among mental health "professionals" have accused me of, wanting to dominate other people, or trick them by presenting with problems that they claim I am using only to deceive.
Pachy, do you think that you learned some techniques to protect yourself that look (from outside of yourself) like you are trying to control others?

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I realize now that those reactions of some are similar to how my mother dealt with us children: she thought that we were in charge, or should be, and should take care of her problems. I think I realized at that time to some extent that she had problems, and that somebody should attend to them -- but nobody did.
So these reactions of others are mirroring your mother's reactions? There is definitely a power/control dynamic going on for you?????

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I know feeling like I am not being heard or believed makes me feel unsafe.
Because this makes you feel small and weak and without power?
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