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Sep 24, 2009, 04:37 PM
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Member Since: Feb 2009
Location: Ontario, Canada
Posts: 12,269
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Firstly you should only have sex if you are truly ready and only you know when is the right time. Regarding the pain - for the majority of women. it's not painful and some do experience minor pain. Even though you're only 4'9, it doesn't mean that you're extra small in that area. You say you've been hurt emotionally - this concerns me a little. It's important that you feel very relaxed and open so your first experience can be enjoyable
I recommend you use a very good lubricant and you may want to play around with inserting a finger/fingers first. It's also important that you feel in control and that you can stop if you choose to back out. Don't worry he's not going to crush you.
Just remember that your body was designed to handle having sex and even babies. If a woman can have a baby then she can also have sex. On a lighter note I had both my girls with no anesthetic at all and for me it wasn't that bad. I've had worse stomach aches and headaches before. it's very important for it too be your choice and for you to be relaxed. If a persons not relaxed then sex can be difficult even for an experienced person. Best of luck. 
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