jacq you don't have to do anything. I think she could have been touching on the issue of separateness. We are connected with our T's (and others), yet we are separate. Part of our T's life does include us and part of it doesn't. I believe that the part that does include us is absolutely authentic.

There are many kinds of T's and therapies and not all T's and/or therapies encourage a close relationship and in fact some outright discourage it, such as discouraging transference.

We are fortunate that we have T's who do value the therapy relationship and who tell us that they think of us outside of the therapy session. When it is hard to believe our good fortune, it is possible for the trust and faith in the authenticity of the relationship to be a bit insecure and fragile when doubted for whatever reason. I'm proud of you for telling your therapist how you were feeling and why. I love that she reassured you and that she was so touched when she told you that she cares about you (and that apparently she felt sad *for you* that you didn't know that).

She sounds like a wonderful T and I think you will feel better soon and this experience will strengthen your wonderful relationship with her.