THANKS for not crucifying me for standing up for or posting that I have benefited greatly from DBT. As far as challenging statements, like I'll kill myself or divorce you (to my husband--often statement from me)--these are the kind of RASH behaviors or statements I make when I am emotionally dysregulated (which is what DBT is targeting). BUT with my DBT I realized I don't want a divorce, I don't want to be dead--I just don't have the skills to deal with the overwhelming & scary emotions I feel. So DBT has given me the skills (not like I'm "cured"), but I tell you I am able to de-escalate my out of control emotions much sooner, feel more pleasure in life, decrease anxiety, TRYING to feel "real" (you all with borderline or "others" may know what this feeling is).

ANYWAY--I had my individual therapy w/the therapist who leads the DBT group & then immediately after that DBT group. She (T) stays for an extra 45 min. to make sure we are OK (only 2 of us at the DBT group today but other young lady has been struggling a lot in that an alter took control & the police had to be called & handcuff her & take her to the psych ward; I thing she was there 7 days).

This is a young lady (young to me!) in immense pain & after I left after therapist spent an extra 30-45 min. "hanging out" w/ us after DBT was officially over, I saw the T hug her & pull her into her arms & apparently was going to spend more time w/her privately (off the books as in no charge; this T has done EMDR treatments for me w/no charge as well. She cares for us for some reason).

What a thought--a therapist or pdoc who cares? I am really lucky in that I have both...