Ah, I suspected as much, I'm so sorry. This is the same way I got the job lol. I have no doubt that deep down my grandmother knew that she needed someone there. That isn't to say that she didn't fight it tooth and nail. My mother bore the brunt of the fall out.

May I suggest for everyone's mental health that your niece have many "appointments" outside the home. Every night my uncle came over to sit with her for dinner (he was the apple of her eye and she was sweetness and light to him, plus she ate just to please him), and my mother and Aunts took turns on various night so that I could just leave for a while.

It's a wonderful gift you're all giving her, whether she feels inclined to see it this way right now or not. I wish you all strength, courage, patience and peace.