Hang in there! You and someone close to you may be doing observational evaluations about you. Be as honest as you can! It's hard, but you will get the most accurate diagnosis that way!

My husband was scared to have me see his evaluation about me. I promised I didn't need to see it, and even though I could ask my doctor to see it now, I won't.

IF, and I mean IF you find you are ADHD and they recommend your doctor to prescribe medication, you will notice a change as soon as you start taking it. (This may be jumping the gun...) Your focus will increase and your brain gets quieter. But it does not CURE ADHD. I just went through a medication increase (it can take up to a year to get the right medication and dosage) and still see the symptoms. You tend to notice when you are distracted more (I refer to that as my "ooh shiny" or "oh look! A chicken" moments.) At first this depressed me, then I realized that by knowing when/what caused the distracted moments, I could learn to minimize them. I am also working with an ADHD Life Coach to help me learn to work with my ADHD, not against it.

There are a lot of good (and free! ) sites that have information on ADHD and networks run by ADHD coaches, specifically for women with ADHD. Feel free to PM me if you would like the ones I know of. I may just be starting my own journey with this, but I am happy to share any information I get if it will help! Good luck, and no matter what, if you are diagnosed or they decide you do not have ADHD, we support you!

BTW- it's great that your boss is helpful! I am extremely lucky to have an incredibly supportive boss. I was incredibly upset when our FT suggested I may be ADHD (since I had been told I wasn't at age 10). When I told my boss, he looked me right in the eye and said "I always thought so, but it makes you who you are! I've just always tried to play to your strengths. I will always support you any way I can and you will go far!" What a relief!