The memories happen when ever they want to. Guilt, shame and thinking it is somehow your fault can all be normal feelings and ideas when these things happen. The therapist is tell you the right things, but the problem is that you just can not change easily the way you think. It is very hard to do, even though it makes perfect sense. Things that we learn in the past, make us who we are today. When young children are taught adult things it makes a severe impact on them. Your very core way of living and thinking is what must be changed. This is why it is so hard to just get over it and causes the confusion. If you can overcome this while you are young, the you will save yourself many years of headaches and heartaches. Keep searching like you are doing. You will find that it will help.