ww in an earlier post about this child I think you said she would be 18 in a couple of months right? I think really you have to let her go. I had to kick my son out when he was just 18 because he would do nothing but lay around the house and do nothing...smoke pot...sponge off me....he learned really fast to grow up. I sent him out of the state. Just a short time later he cried and told me it was the best thing I could have ever done for him. Today he makes over 50k a yr and doing great! keep your chin up hon. somehow it will work out..you have done your job as a mom and did your best. don't kick yourself over this hon...we are in this together.