have you decided you will be having a closure session with old-T, bluemoon?

jmo, but when someone is toxic and simply not working for us, a closure session might actually hurt more than it heals. if she couldn't give you what you needed whilst you were her client, then i would doubt whether she could provide proper closure and a sense of ease about terminating also.

i would wonder if maybe writing her a letter would be a safer option - you could express your thanks for all the things she has done for you (because, as you've mentioned, she really did help in her own way), but you would also be protecting yourself from your expectations/desires of what a closure session would be like.

i dont know. maybe i am projecting too much of my own experience onto this. my old-T always told me i didnt have to return if i didnt want to, and that he had other clients he could see instead, so when i finally did tell him i was not returning he just looked surprised and said that was my choice and good luck.

i have cried about him many times since, and i think i do need a closure of sorts. but i will probably bring it up with my new T (austin!) because i just dont think old-T could provide what i needed from him - some sort of emotional connection and acknowledgement of what we did achieve together.