I'm not going to stick with him. The situation is just too complicated to make it a simple "were done" so we need to talk it out. It's just really difficult actually talking things out with him because when he feels threatened he acts very childish.

You didn't offend me or anything, I totally understand. He does the same things in front of his friends. And his friends will make fun of me and I asked him to, maybe just once, defend me instead of going along with his friends and making fun of me.

I think the thing is, that I don't put up with any crap. I'm very straight forward and I don't hide my emotions and he doesn't understand how to deal with that. And as I'm sure you have experienced, when a woman knows what she wants or needs and isn't afraid to go for it, she is considered a *****. I have told him several times that my education comes first and I'm not putting my needs on hold for him and that makes him very defensive.

I really do think he wants the white picket fence with 2.3 kids and a dog type of life and that's just not me. And we don't see eye to eye on that. Even if we didn't fight, we do not agree at all on extremely important things like finances while you're married, how to discipline children - things that can destroy a marriage. So I think once I realized that we could never work as a married couple I started noticing all these other things he does.

It's just hard for me to think with my mind and not my heart. I have this innate hope that everyone is capable of change and I know that I need to quit trying to 'fix' people and focus on myself but that is easier said than done. In the end I know I need to do what's best for me and somehow I will get out of this relationship. I guess I'm putting up with it for now because, I know once I'm moving in a few months and it doesn't make sense to me to complicate things anymore right now when I'm just going to leave in a little while.

So for right now I'm trying to be civil and over time make him realize that this isn't what i want.

Thanks vickie, you have helped a lot. And thanks to everyone else, too!